My question is in two parts.
I joined a new post-doc position while pregnant but didn't disclose it during the time of interview because the PI wasn't sure about the funding situation but still wanted to meet me and give a talk.I planned on telling if I get a positive hearing which I did before joining the position. At first it seemed he really wanted me to start and assured me he could accommodate me without any problem. But I got to see his true colors after getting in there. He is very micromanaging, checking every hour what people are doing in the lab, passing sarcastic remarks if they are away from the bench, gives a huge lecture on taking a little break in the office, criticizing people on their work style, telling them all the time how things should be done. In summary, it has become a nighmare to be around him and he is in the lab most of the time.
I was trying to keep my composure together until now when I found out that he has said something bad about me (probably that I am not working hard enough)to my Ph.D. PI which really has upset me. This could really affect my relationship with my PhD advisor. He had been very supportive and always gave me good ref letter. They both know each although not for long enough.
I have been very productive since the beginning even working in 8-5 pm work schedule and not to mention the physical exertion that comes along with pregnancy. I tried to work like a normal person and not even used my pregnancy as an excuse to affect my work. He even mentioned to me that I am supposed to work 12 hrs a day and I am not working hard enough for the amount of money I am getting (I'm sure all the members here would know how rich is post-doc world?. I am not going to mention all other things that have been really hurtful if not abusive. All I can say that he is a big bully.
Now my questions are:
1. Should I tell my PhD PI about what's going on? If I should then how and upto what extent? I just want to make it clear to him that I worked to my full capacity but he was never happy...sthg like this.
2. Although we have worked out care plan for our little one, but I still don't want to work for him. It's been only few months since I started. Should I leave his lab now? I don't want to include this job time in my resume. He is not going to give me any good ref. letter I can tell for sure even if I stay in his for a year.
On the other hand, I would really like to take some time off (2-3 months) and recharge myself for another job position (definitley not post-doc). I am so done with bench work and research.
I would really appreciate your input and much valued suggestions.
Thanks in advance!