It is actually rare that you got constructive feedback at all. I'd thank them for it. Most companies will not spend the time to do this on someone they have lost interest in.
It is interesting that you have brought up the differences in the way men and women perceive criticism. You and some other posters believe the differences can be summarized as:
woman: I am not good enough for the position
man: Bad fit
Is this a true perception of the differences? I don't know, however, it is clear that you are feeling more along the lines of the former and I'd recommend you feel more along the lines of the later.